Nicely put.
'Start out with the focus truly on the music and I think a lot of the angst goes away.'
If find that I do that, and when I do I find that my 15,000.00 system sounds very satisfying. That is compared to hundred thousand dollar systems I have heard many of. Rarely but at times when I am listening to hear a difference between anything, musical or hardware, I find there is always something lacking. So I just focus on enjoying the artistry and I am in heaven with my stuff.