I guess I'm luckier than some--I had my system as a permanent fixture and in my own house before I brought my wife in, so she accepts this is the way I am, and that music listening is my pastime. She does like a lot of my music, or so she sez. But yeah, she is mostly concerned with social media and talking to friends, while I sit and groove--way down deep, more like a meditation. I enjoy an inner experience, whereas she is more outwardly oriented. I like that tantric idea, though.......
If she isn't into the gear, is she into the music?
Are you with someone who enjoys music? Would this be a quality in a partner that is or has been important to you? It just seems there are few couples I know who are both into music later in life. I just can't imagine how it would be to here, "Ok, can you turn it off now? My show is on."