Most women I know today could careless about gear and even music.. well, maybe a little music to provide a little background noise. Most women today are into/on their phones day and night. They seem to enjoy talking and texting over music.
If she isn't into the gear, is she into the music?
Are you with someone who enjoys music? Would this be a quality in a partner that is or has been important to you? It just seems there are few couples I know who are both into music later in life. I just can't imagine how it would be to here, "Ok, can you turn it off now? My show is on."