I asked the OP about his room because ultimately, as Hhiggins just wrote, he needs to hear the equipment in his room. I think it is important to eliminate the room's effects as much as possible.
The OP wrote he had two "incredible" systems in his home already. I infer that he probably has done something to treat the room and he has achieved good synergy with his components. When he swaps out equipment, he probably will be hearing that change more so and not the effects of the room.
With good synergy in place already, where should he start: With the Source or the Speakers?
To answer his question, since local audio clubs are out of the question, and it really is difficult to audition in someone's home, he first should think about going to RMAF. As has been stated already, if he can hear something he likes in what is a very challenging listening environment, then he has his jumping off point for the next part: Identifying dealers that other members have been to before where the dealer has made the extra effort to set up a good room or two in his business and who reps the equipment he is interested in and then go visit them.
Will that cost more? Yes, but depending on his location, maybe not that much more expensive than using a hit or miss approach buying/selling equipment off Audiogon without having heard the equipment somewhere else and just relying on professional or user reviews.
The OP wrote he had two "incredible" systems in his home already. I infer that he probably has done something to treat the room and he has achieved good synergy with his components. When he swaps out equipment, he probably will be hearing that change more so and not the effects of the room.
With good synergy in place already, where should he start: With the Source or the Speakers?
To answer his question, since local audio clubs are out of the question, and it really is difficult to audition in someone's home, he first should think about going to RMAF. As has been stated already, if he can hear something he likes in what is a very challenging listening environment, then he has his jumping off point for the next part: Identifying dealers that other members have been to before where the dealer has made the extra effort to set up a good room or two in his business and who reps the equipment he is interested in and then go visit them.
Will that cost more? Yes, but depending on his location, maybe not that much more expensive than using a hit or miss approach buying/selling equipment off Audiogon without having heard the equipment somewhere else and just relying on professional or user reviews.