This has gotten more complicated than I anticipated. Perhaps the best thing you can do is use RCA splitters to drive your B&O speakers off one of your DAC’s outputs and the drive your subs off the other set of RCA outs. Then you can run the balanced outputs from the DAC into a dedicated balanced headphone amp of your choosing — one that doesn’t have a preamp/volume control — then you can use the DAC to control everything. As far as a balanced headphone cable, I’d recommend this one with the AECO XLR plugs as it’s a great performer and a great value for what you get. Hope this helps, and best of luck.
https://www.lavricables.com/cables/reference-silver-headphone-upgrade-cable/