How much “suspension of disbelief do you need?”

When people who are in a band tell me that they have never heard a stereo that sounded as accurate as mine, where they are able to discern rim shots, listen to the original to better reproduce it and such, I know that I am close. As resolving as my system is, I still want a hair more. I can't say whether that will be sufficient or not because I am not yet there, but I believe that I am nearly there. Well recorded vocals that do not have instruments drowning out spatial details do render a "you are there" reproduction on my system, but then they were so engineered, because most were not recorded with a single stereo microphone. Different producers and engineers achieve different levels of realism. It's much like 18'th century scientists saying that science is akin to thinking God's thoughts after Him as they discovered different things. I hear pretty much what the engineer intended us to hear, assuming a good enough system to do so. You know when you are there when most of your recordings sound good. Subjective, sure, it's all you have after the fact. Listening fatigue is none existent for some fortunate people who's systems don't resolve differences in cables, and in the less fortunate, it drives them to attempt perfection. I am very near my idea of perfection, I am able to listen for hours now. Everyone has their own perception of sufficiency, and beating up others due to their level of sufficiency is an exercise in true ignorance and arrogance, which I was quite guilty of in the past. Now I could care less if you need a cheep 1960's hand held mono transistor radio to be content, or a billion dollar tube system that requires a room the size of a concert hall to be content. As long as you don't have to abuse others to achieve your idea of audio Nirvana I am thrilled that you are content.