How much reality do you really need?

Reality is highly overrated.

I know it's not strictly analogous, but this kind of reminds me of the Heisenberg uncertainty principle.

The more you know that your system sounds like live music, the less you know about live music.  Close enough? :)

All I'm looking for is an emotional connection to the music and to understand where the composer/artist/performer etc. wants to take me and/or what they want me to feel or think about.

And it doesn't take a ne plus ultra system to do that.  In fact, most of the ultra high end systems I've heard had me concentrating more on the sound of the system than the music being played.  Maybe that would change over time and familiarity, but I'll never know because I'm unwilling to spend the kind of money it would take to get to that point.

At this point, my system does what I want.  I'm going to be changing a few things in the near future that will hopefully increase my enjoyment of my music collection.