Spouse 'n self have always been pretty 'off-target' when it came to 'apropos' gifting, so it's wound down to being pretty blatant about What would amuse....
Look over her shoulder as she scans the catalogs of clothing...."Y'know, That would look good on you....more your 'thing'... "....and generally does, and gets an agreement and a positive vote upon arrival and the in-house fashion show....*G*
As for self...better to drop a dwarf star alloy 'hint' (i.e., something printed...), and it generally works....🤷♂️
This year: a major mixer that can do all the things she's commented on being able or wanting to try during the DarkFry 'event', but...
....a 'mystery object' that arrived in an odd box from 'far way' that will have to stand by until 25 in the a.m. ,,,,Just Because....;)
If I'm gifted with anything else but the satin turtleneck 'undershirts' (calling them a 't-shirt' is....incorrect, and I got to pick colors....)....
In some ways, I suspect she's happy to have me still present to be able to be 'un-amused' by.....
Beats the alternative, for both of us.... ;)