Very thoughtful and probing responses.
in my case I have to “talk myself into” listening in a certain way. I imagine myself in a seat in the hall not too close to the stage. The sound level there is not as overwhelming as it is up front. In that way, if the volume on my stereo is turned really high up the parameters become closer to what I hear in the hall. Of course, when the orchestra is playing loudly at full tilt, the sonic pressure is unmatchable.
A large dose of imagination is necessary.