Another problem here (sorry, didn't read you whold post) is that you likely have your two subs out of phase, in relation to where you sit, and were the main speakers are located. I've seen this on occasions, actually. Infact, I fixed a trained lisenced installer's system, that had the very problem (among others), where his two several thousand dollar subwoofers weren't producing hardly any bass in the system. Also, his mains were in a place where they weren't coupling well at the critical crossover frequency, between speakers and subs.
All this compounds things. You should get the main speakers balanced from the listening position first, then the subwoofer, then tie them all together, and let the processor handle phase, and level matching - in your case.
Try this: Until you get a sound meter and test disc, you can simply try placing one of your speakers (woofers) where your head will be in a chair (listening possition). Then, listen to some mono-summed (or stereo, if must)music with a steady bass beat, that you KNOW sounds like there's a "hole" when you play it. Then, go listen from where the speaker originally was, placing your ears near where the woofer on the speaker used to be placed. Then, move around the space a bit, until you hear a place where the bass is more solid and there's no hole!
This step should be done first with the main speakers, playing full range. This way you can identify wether the problem is in the main speaker locations (also, the listening position, as they're directly correlated). Do this also with the center, and rears.
Then, do this with the subwoofer, place where your chair is, ear height. Listen for solid bass. Then, I'd suggest placing the two subs either on top of each other, or right next to each other, for best phase cohesion with mains, no matter where you sit in the room!
If you place the subs in half spots around the room, it's going to be hard for you to get phase right, and you'll running into phase cancelation problems, unless you know what you're doing.
Setting up a properly balanced and coherent home theater is not an easy task for the inexperienced. As you can see, there's lot's to know.
Hope that helps, good luck