God, I hate to ask this…


Recent conversations with the oncologist have been replete with phrases like ‘stage 4’,metastasis’ and unappealing statistics applied to survival rates. While my real and financial affairs are well settled I am most perplexed with how to approach this large pile of audio stuff e.g. 3 secondary systems in addition to the primary one, several thousand lp’s, a similar number of CD’s/SACD’s, a closet full of cable etc. I am utterly confident that I am not alone in this. While I am comfortable that my wife will love and care for my dog I am less confident that the Avantgardes will elicit such emotional investment. Although my immediate inclination is to cling desperately to these treasured objects it seems patently unfeeling to expect someone else to deal with all of this. My wife will have enough to do. I could just divest myself of much of it and depend on the collection of headphones that I began to amass during the first illness. I really don’t want to do this. I would also like to pre-bequeath much of it to friends assuming that they wanted it but all of them have been adamant in their refusal to discuss this with me and probably will remain so until the 11th hour. As childlike as it seems, I am emotionally invested in these fruits of a lifelong passion and want them to end up where they will be respected and loved . This seems to be a juncture that we will all come to. I would be grateful to hear the contemplations that all you have had in this, admittedly, sobering matter. 
To all of you, good cheer and good health.

 

williamjohnston

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Sorry to hear this. I to am long past the days when I was 6ft tall and bullet proof, If I make it 3 more years, I will become the longest lived member of the male line in my family. All that aside. I have had the same thoughts as you. I have a modest audio system and some Martin guitars that are probably worth more than my electronics.

Unfortunately, my wife cares little about either of my passions. I have no offspring to pass anything down to. If I had any other relatives that deserved or showed any interest, I would consider leaving something to them. So, when I assume room temp, I suppose she will sell everything and enjoy the proceeds (not the she will need it). I'm leaning toward the attitude of what will be will be, Once I'm gone, it really won't matter.