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God, I hate to ask this…

Recent conversations with the oncologist have been replete with phrases like ‘stage 4’,metastasis’ and unappealing statistics applied to survival rates. While my real and financial affairs are well settled I am most perplexed with how to approach this large pile of audio stuff e.g. 3 secondary systems in addition to the primary one, several thousand lp’s, a similar number of CD’s/SACD’s, a closet full of cable etc. I am utterly confident that I am not alone in this. While I am comfortable that my wife will love and care for my dog I am less confident that the Avantgardes will elicit such emotional investment. Although my immediate inclination is to cling desperately to these treasured objects it seems patently unfeeling to expect someone else to deal with all of this. My wife will have enough to do. I could just divest myself of much of it and depend on the collection of headphones that I began to amass during the first illness. I really don’t want to do this. I would also like to pre-bequeath much of it to friends assuming that they wanted it but all of them have been adamant in their refusal to discuss this with me and probably will remain so until the 11th hour. As childlike as it seems, I am emotionally invested in these fruits of a lifelong passion and want them to end up where they will be respected and loved . This seems to be a juncture that we will all come to. I would be grateful to hear the contemplations that all you have had in this, admittedly, sobering matter. 
To all of you, good cheer and good health.

 

williamjohnston

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You seem upbeat and thinking clearly about your situation, it is hard to read and my best wishes to you. 

Although morbid the Swiss practice the "Swedish Death Cleaning" starting around 65 years old.  I have begun this process while I still can move heavy stuff around. I have three Corvettes and two Harleys to deal with.  The Harleys are going, but the vettes are staying.  I enjoy them too much and they could easily be sold at the appropriate time.  

I also have the other side of the coin going in my household, without giving up to much my wife has been diagnosed with a rather severe neurological disorder.  And she has quite a bit of very nice "things" that she holds dear.  No way can I expect her to give them up.

Which brings me to my 2 cents...prioritize all of your audio holdings and keep what gives you the most joy and solace.  Create a detailed plan to dispose of whatever it is you decide to keep.  And do the Swedish thing on what you decide not to keep.

My kids don't want any of my audio gear which sort of pains me because they grew up in a house where music was a near constant.  And so it goes.

I'm very sorry to hear of your troubles and I will send some thoughts up to the big man.

Regards,

barts

 

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