Been there, done that. I solved this problem somewhat by intentionally dumbing down my system. Apart from my speakers, there is stuff out there that is much better than what I have now but I ignore that, don't think about it. I try to make my few appearances here to be helpful to others, don't read reviews or subscribe to magazines, and don't talk much about what I have or have done unless it is serves to help someone else. I guess (and hope) I've been able to reorient myself and focus on the music. Hang in there, there is hope. :-)
Getting into the music
I’ve found, to my dismay, that it’s very difficult for me to listen to music for the music itself these days. Since I got into this audiophile game many years ago, little by little my musical appreciation has eroded to the point that I find it very hard to comprehend the music itself if it doesn’t sound good. Too often I’m listening for sonic delights rather than the message the composer is trying to convey. I find myself going from composition to composition looking for audio niceties. When something sounds good I can then begin to get into what the composer is saying.
As a former musician, this would have been unthinkable years ago. Music was everything to me.