Does loudness play a part in your appreciation?

For me loud enough is just below the level wherethe audio system exhibits strain and distortion. 
 

Don’t like distortion or strain. 

I'm probably an 85 DB is loud guy.  Mostly jazz.  

Most tracks or albums have a perfect sound level, all different.  I turn the sound up until the image of the voice or instrument in front of me is the right size.  Too loud and it's blasting and unrealistic.  Too small and it elevator music.  

Anything realistic in size pretty much prohibits conversation.  Guess we are loners a bit with this hobby.

I've sat in the booths a tiny bar with a jazz big band taking up the entire floor. It was amazing, but if I played my system at that kind of volume it would seem crazy loud—even though my living room is larger than that bar. I think the microcosm of music idea applies, and it's more than compression and good gear. Live music has a different energy to it from recordings. I'm kinda glad. It's part of why I love going to hear live music.