OP, you sound like you are reasonable. Maybe you should start questioning your gear. Benchmark is very detailed sounding… maybe you are looking for more musical gear. I think Totem is a good speaker to meet your expectation… I own a pair.
The sound quality you get is really dependent on your equipment. It can be anywhere from naked lean and detailed to enveloping warm and organic. I’m starting to think you are a warm enveloping musical guy (like me) as opposed to a lean detailed (Benchmark) guy.
Maybe it is the equipment?