Agree the BDP3 is solid in sound quality, just lacking in some features.
Unless you use Roon, all the players have their own feel when it comes to software controls. Some will resonate with certain users and some won't. I think that's why there are so many arguments about which is better. People just like different things in their UI design.
I tried Aurender, Innuos, Lumin, Auralic, and some others. Ended up liking Auralic best. But then I mainly use Roon nowadays so it really doesn't matter as much.