What you need is a stylus force gauge, which measures the tracking force of the stylus on the record (as opposed to the actual weight of the tonearm / cartridge). The least expensive decent stylus force gauge is the Shure SFG-2, which costs about $20. It uses a balance arm, and can measure tracking force up to 3 grams.
The Shure stylus force gauge is available from lots of audio outlets, but the easiest way to get one is to order it online from the Audio Advisor. Click on the following link for more info:
http://www.audioadvisor.com/store/productdetail.asp?sku=SHUGAUGE&product_name=SFG-2%20Stylus%20Pressure%20Gauge
The Shure stylus force gauge is available from lots of audio outlets, but the easiest way to get one is to order it online from the Audio Advisor. Click on the following link for more info:
http://www.audioadvisor.com/store/productdetail.asp?sku=SHUGAUGE&product_name=SFG-2%20Stylus%20Pressure%20Gauge