You are right and it is even more complex than just the right balance of reflections locations/diffusion locations/absorption locations...
The acoustic material content of the room matter, his size parameters , his geometry, his topology (windows doors apertures) and his acoustic material compositioncontent...
Without being there it is difficult to gave advices if we are not a very professional experimented acoustician...
Anyway i used non esthetical resonators and it takes me 2 years to be done with them i had experience really in one small room only ...
The only thing i know is that any room can be tuned, i tune mine with a speaker in a corner for example near the wall and the other not in a corner ...
Every room is different. Every ear is different. Every speaker is different. Nobody can answer your question. Broad brush statement is, a mix of absorption and diffusion work best. Look for a decay time around 250 or so.