Hi Clio, I've been fortunate (or cursed perhaps) with an old ARC SP10 which allows loading on the fly. Obviously I've had many cartridges, TT's, etc to play thru it. That is where I'm coming from.
IMHO a system is successful only when you have found synergy from source to speaker. To me the speaker is the anchor and once you have identified a speaker that works for you you can address the other components. The problem, as I see it, with running a system with any cartridge arbitraily loaded at 47K, is that the result is not necessarily optimum depending on the rest of your system.
As you have noted, you prefer 75K and 100K. I have used 10K with some old Grado's, 2K with some Gliders, etc, even an old Accuphase and Grace and only the Grace sounded good at 47K. All have been chosen for tone and clarity using the pre-amp, amp and speakers on hand at the time they were used.
I would agree with anyone who believes that changing the load that a cartridge sees is more a tonal change and 'clarity' sets in somewhere between 'muddy' from loading down too much to 'excessively bright' by not loading it enuf, also subject to ones personal aural preferences.
The problem with Herron's, and probably Allen's, views on an absolute load of 47K is that you are likely to have to change out other components every time you change your cartridge, or only buy cartridges designed to work optimally at 47K. (Of course if you have tubes everywhere you can probably just fiddle with those and get a pretty good result.
Now, the reason I post on this subject (other than my originals to the OP) should be obvious but I'll clarify. Look at the OP's problems and his first response as well.
Of all the solutions at hand the cheapest and easiest way to solve the problem (if it worked) was to load the cartridge. If it don't work you just pull the plugs. He could have several sets made at different loads to play around with as well. Cheap.
Or he could have changed some tubes in his pre-amp. This is also very cheap UNTIL he identifies a tone he likes and tries to duplicate it by getting some high quality NOS with a similar tone.
Lastly he could buy Allen's designed phono pre on sale for 1650, buy a high quality line stage to match, probably at least 2000, and hope it works! Unless he is sonically clairvoyant I doubt that he'll get it right the first time out.
He mentioned the EAR phono stage with its passive VC, thinking that he could bypass the MFA Magus. While that phono stage is good enuf, and he can fiddle with loads and tubes, a nice combo I think, and if he were to get it modded it would be even better (so I'm told) it would still be passive and miss out on the dynamics a good active line stage adds, which I think is essential to enjoying vinyl sound. Because of the cost and uncertainty attendant to getting new electronics I though he might satisfied HIS needs in an easy and economical way by exploring loading and tube changes. Was I wrong?
Frankly I'd be interested in seeing more possible and practical solutions for the OP's dilemma, than just Allens promoting his own design and overbroad dis'ing cartridge loading without any specificity.