Dean,
I have to say I think you were misinformed by Cary.
I currently own 805 AEs. I bias the 300Bs to 60 mA as instructed and run either stock Chinese 845s or Super TNT 845 Ms. If either were pulling 95WI think I would see both glowing plates and short tube life. I see neither. Furthermore, just about everybody with these amps, if they are running 845s, are running straight Chinese 845s or 845Bs. Like any tube, these tubes like no more than 80% of max dissipation - or 80W - for decent tube life. I think there would be many reports of 845 tubes lasting only dozens or hundreds of hours in these amps (when they should last thousands) if they were really dissipating 95W.
Also, I have never heard a single report of 845Bs with 70W max dissipation. Yes, 70W is the figure for several variants of new-production metal-plate 845s (845Cs and some 845Ms), but not the graphite-plate 845Bs.
I'd say I'm 90% sure on each of these counts - but not 100%!