Just ran into this thread and bumped it.
Lots of stuff to digest - but a few questions:
- How important is gaming to you (if you still have a PS3 & 4, I'd imagine you enjoy a little bit of gaming)? If relatively important, and based on your display (noice choice, BTW), it may add the constraint (plus cost!) of an AVR that's HDMI 2.1a capable. Moreover, if the case, I believe they would put the cost of any Pre/Pro out of reach (even used). Possible to do an eARC feedback from your TV, however.
- Music adds a nuance to the equation. Disregarding HDMI 2.1a for a moment, and assuming dedicated stereo only sessions - apart from an AVR, you could go down the "real nice" integrated with an outboard 5.1 processor. The integrated would need a tape or processor loop, and you can switch sources on HDMI 2.1a via your TV (as previously stated), using eARC if necessary.
Wondering if you have an update - judging from the date of your original post, maybe you've already bought and set everything up?