Contrary to popular belief, the people in your life are more important than your stereo.
Everyone here values their families more than their stereo system. When my grandchildren are around, I put everything on hold to enjoy them. Life doesn’t have to be always binary. Doesn’t have to be a choice between your wife and your system. You can have both and still live in harmony.
The OP didn’t ask for advice about his marital life, and no one would advise him to choose his system over his wife, just to clarify things.