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RE: the question: ":Why do forum interactions become contentious". . .

I've just had a very unexpected and very unpleasant PM from a forum participant. 

He'd been suggesting I buy a certain component  and I told him politely that I didn't visualize that particular purchase fitting in with my long-range plans.  

His response was to accuse me of wasting everyone's time and to call me an "effing idiot" (except he spelled "effing" correctly). 

The great majority of interactions I've had here have been very enjoyable and recent input from
more experienced forum members has helped greatly in clarifying my plan for the next upgrade cycle. 

The thread on lesser-know Jazz has been great-- lots of participation and lots of terrific suggestions. 

Nevertheless, I've decided to take a break. 

Best regards,

Stuartk



stuartk
2021lila
8 posts
 
Hello sorry you are having a difficult time. I have noticed the behavior you describe while using several different online venues like gaming, news posts, and social media. It seems that many people are willing to drop to the lowest element when they are not face to face with the party they are communicating with. So anonymity seems to provide the freedom to insult and put people down that some people apparently enjoy and need. It's unfortunate but it seems that it is a part of the online world that we all live in these days. I relate to the feelings you describe as a result of these types of posts hope you can get past this one soon.
richopp
760 posts
 
Hope your health improves.

My take is that there are a new group of people that I like to call, "the perpetually apoplectic" among us these days.

I am not going to say where I think this originated or by whom, but when people are upset, they sometimes seek others to validate their feelings.  Soon, whether warranted or not, this group can become dominant in Forums like this or in other areas of out lives.

They do not represent the majority of music lovers on here, but, as a cartoon I have says, two cats looking at a chained-up dog who is howling at the moon, "How come the most ignorant among us are always the loudest?"

Cheers!
streamerdude
54 posts
 
The anonymous internet is a dream come true for bullying cowards. When our government institutes the Chinese social credit system this will all stop as there will be consequences for rude behavior. 
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hilde45
4,842 posts
 
Love that Zappa quote!

I wonder if Zappa was channeling T.S. Eliot:

Where is the Life we have lost in living?
Where is the wisdom we have lost in knowledge?
Where is the knowledge we have lost in information?

from,: T.S. Eliot, Choruses from the Rock
plaw
80 posts
 
There are pimps and shills on Audiogon, and if you do not like a particular piece of equipment or a particular company, then you may get attacked because we are talking about their livelihood.  Really has nothing to do with opinions or discussion - follow the money.  I would not take it personally - you seem like a nice fella to me.  Prayers for your health.
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