What I’ve learned in sales / management long ago is how to read people quickly, and that same technic is applied when purchasing, even online. Having said, you have (some) legitimate questions. My best advice, sure you feel it’s a two-way street though clearly not always the case from others perspective. But to many variables at play here for a burned out dude like myself to explain. People have their reasons :-)
Had someone call me zealot once in my lifetime … I likely deserved it. And yes, related to audio purchase that worked out in my favor.