why do so many discussions turn contentious?


just venting....why do so many discussion posts need to turn  contenious and nasty?  do you guys find that constructive and/or enjoyable?  I have no clue who or how this forum is moderated, but I sure would love to see a stop to that...it makes me feel like this hobby is dominated by total jerks.

Can't we play nice, share OPINIONS and OBSERVATIONS, realizing that  they often are subjective and biased.  
"if you dont have anything nice to say, say nothing"?  If you wish to disagree, do it in a constructive and mature fashion, no need for "argument ad hominem"...

with all the chaff, one must waste so much time finding the wheat, figuratively speaking.  

I doubt my writing this will change anything, but, like most social media, people writing to others without facing them does not bring out the best, sadly......



jw944ts

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@nonoise I guess I am relatively new to the site. Who was Almarg? Any thoughts of how the site might regain its former self?
it takes two to argue, so my approach will always be to avoid the dance when you sense who you are dealing with; what I find disappointing is that this childish behavior largely dilutes the value of the form, making it difficult, at times, to find what you are looking for. A question or observation is posted, it leads to a thread of 50 responses, mostly of little or no value, and often leading totally away from the original post...this should  not a male pissing contest, "my X is better or cost more than your Y"....I could care less about that....but, I guess this is the world we find ourselves in, and I have nowhere else to go....
well, the point of my question/original post, was to hopefully raise some consciousness about this "pattern of the times", not thinking of curing it, but hoping to make all participants somewhat thoughtful about how and what they write here....perhaps I am optimistic in thinking we have achieved a small step in that direction?
it is easy, folks....play nice and follow the golden rule....this is not a pissing contest, "mine is bigger/better/more expensive than yours"....if you dont have something nice or constructive to say, simply dont say anything....if you wish to disagree, please remember the largely subjective nature of audio, and be polite, as if you were sitting with the person you are chatting with.....EASY BREEZY!!
Lots of good points. Let’s all now agree that the reasons may be many, but we can and need to do better. Play nice and be respectful!
+1 nonoise
         "This is turning into quite the soap opera with some over the top ham vying for the spotlight."

again, many valid points, how about...enough psychology, rhetoric, etc...this is not a contest to see who wins with the best answer, no more than this site is a contest to see who has the best, the most expensive or is the smartest.....let's all now end this and simply pledge to play nice, be respectful, remember the level of subjectivity of our hobby and  differing tastes. IF you wish to disagree, write like you were chatting face-to-face with a colleague and being polite.... 
As always, some getting off topic, some unnecessary and nasty name calling, some good observations , some repetitive. I can only hope my OP has caused thought and raised awareness…the question, itself, was rhetorical…..
Due to the way this discussion has gone, I will now stop following it....I think it is clear from what is in here the answer(s) to the OP and the identities of those quilty....BYE!