why do so many discussions turn contentious?


just venting....why do so many discussion posts need to turn  contenious and nasty?  do you guys find that constructive and/or enjoyable?  I have no clue who or how this forum is moderated, but I sure would love to see a stop to that...it makes me feel like this hobby is dominated by total jerks.

Can't we play nice, share OPINIONS and OBSERVATIONS, realizing that  they often are subjective and biased.  
"if you dont have anything nice to say, say nothing"?  If you wish to disagree, do it in a constructive and mature fashion, no need for "argument ad hominem"...

with all the chaff, one must waste so much time finding the wheat, figuratively speaking.  

I doubt my writing this will change anything, but, like most social media, people writing to others without facing them does not bring out the best, sadly......



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I actually think there are (at least) two root causes.
One is people who are somehow angry and take things off topic to rant. Those are pretty transparent and to me therefore, less troublesome. Since they are so far off topic, easily ignored entirely.  Of course the OP gets a bit screwed...

The 2nd is people who,rather than give facts and reasoned advice, throw out "this product" (which is always their product, in which they are apparently invested psychologically?). Defensiveness ensues. And if someone brings reason and logic to such a conversation, hey are branded  as [insert opposite of one's philosophy].

Kinda sad. I'd liek to see people establish the basis of their suggestion, with caveats, supporting ideas, etc.  We could all then **learn**. But as Steve Martin said after spouting enlightenment in the midst of medievil medicine, "nah......"

'later