You might be chasing your tail a bit, trying to find a cap that will tame your tweeter. Something with a high ESR would work, but it would make more sense to just install an L-pad (in parallel to the tweeter, across the tweeter output of your filter) and use it to pad the tweeter level. Once your tweeter level is comfortable, remove the L-pad and measure its resistance. Purchase a high quality resistor of the same value, and install it in the same location.