have read that pretty much everyone puts their speakers toed in at about 45 degrees so there is a triangle listening arrangement
Toe-in depends on many factors. 45 degrees is common if you’re sitting close in the near-field. Different speaker designs and room acoustics will dictate the angle of toe-in.
My setup is in an equilateral triangle, but due to the dispersion from my speakers they are firing almost straight ahead. This is what the designer John Devore recommends and the soundstage and image are right on the money.
There are different theories on how to set up speakers, but whichever method you use, it’s always time consuming. Taking measurements, listening, adjusting position, then listening again. And each time you adjust the speakers it should be in small increments as stated above. One inch may get you to that perfect soundstage.
It should be mentioned that the rake angle of the speakers will play an important role in setting your desired sonics and image.