Speaker Upgrade

Thanks for your input. So far I have listened to the B & W 804D, The Dyno C2, Dyno 3.2 Contour and Paradigm S6. I really liked the C2 and so far the only one that I would consider a huge upgrade over my current B & W Matix 803's. My wife and I agreed that the sound was superior on the C2's and we also love the look. The 803D's were not in stock, hoping they will come in. Tomorrow we are going to listen to the Sonus Fabers. I have read great reviews of the Ushers however have nowhere to audition them in my area. Also was impressed with the Vandersteen CE2 that together with an integrated tube amp was far superior to the paradigm S6's that we auditioned in store # 2 in our opinion. Great sound for a $2000 speaker. We won't consider the Vandy's due to the cloth socks and the fact that we have cats.
A few members suggested a two channel integrated or pre with home theater by pass with a great two channel amp as a necessary investment prior to upgrading the speakers.
I am looking to purchase used here on Audiogon.

I do feel bad going to stores to audition speakers however I can't think of any other way to listen to that variety of speakers. Any suggestions?

The place that handles the Vandersteen's I think are discontinuing the line. They pushed us away from them and all they stocked were the CE2. They were shocked when we told them how much we liked them. I rarely see the Vandy woods for sale used and would like to listen to them prior to purchasing. That being said I would surely consider them.

I have owned my present speakers for the better part of 20 years so I want to make the best choice possible.

Thanks for the responses.

Shows are a great thought.
I am in the Philadelphia Area and I am not aware of shows in our region.
Regarding wasting the dealers time if they gave me a great deal I would buy. I also in the past have purchased many pieces of equipment from local dealers.

I am heading to Overtures and Hi Fi House this evening.
Soundex is appointment only and it has been tough nailing down a time.
Thanks

Put off by window shopping.... are you serious? They put in a cd, give me a remote and walk away. Such is business.... if their prices are reasonable I will buy. How do you select gear? Do you send someone thousands of $$$ without listening?