I agree , It must be frustating.
I have soundstage , depth , and height.
My room is 12 X 30 (it is opened to the dining room )
The walls are covered with absorbtion-diffuser and diffuser pannels.
( maybe too many )
The ceiling has some acoustic pannels as well.
May be , some speakers are better at soundstage-depth-height ??
My speakers (Audiovector R6 Arreté ) are slightly toed in and tilted .