will it not be very difficult to calibrate the two tweeters to eachother so the frequenses dont "crash"?
As you correctly note it is VERY difficult to correctly align the two drivers. Eldartford hints as to why this is so (a fraction of an inch & you're off many degrees in phase... etc). Unlike he, I would like to have the top part of my spkr playing as "correctly" a possible, so would welcome a 1st order crossing for the supertweet (which makes the story even more complicated).
Zaikes: while you can't "hear" you may "perceive". However your point is very valid IMO. OTOH, it's not necessary to have supertweets beaming -- their 15+% dispersion is often OK. Again, however, your point about in room absorption is valid for most rooms.
Also, as you note & I have experienced (mentioned in my 1st post), there is reinforcement in the upper AF octave and that's what attracts users...
Ultimately, as you note, it's good to have extended HF response for exactly the reasons you mentioned -- rather than hoping for actual musical content in the 50kHz region!