RE: the question: ":Why do forum interactions become contentious". . .


I've just had a very unexpected and very unpleasant PM from a forum participant. 

He'd been suggesting I buy a certain component  and I told him politely that I didn't visualize that particular purchase fitting in with my long-range plans.  

His response was to accuse me of wasting everyone's time and to call me an "effing idiot" (except he spelled "effing" correctly). 

The great majority of interactions I've had here have been very enjoyable and recent input from
more experienced forum members has helped greatly in clarifying my plan for the next upgrade cycle. 

The thread on lesser-know Jazz has been great-- lots of participation and lots of terrific suggestions. 

Nevertheless, I've decided to take a break. 

Best regards,

Stuartk



stuartk

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Mahgister, I generally support what youre saying and I am, of course, all for, each of us, controlling our angry impulses. That which I criticized, in my post, is the popular, commercial and ineffective “technique,” of “Anger Management.”
I apologize if i read you in the wrong way... It seems it is the case...

Sometimes we go swiftly to make a point clear...It is one of my numerous defect to be too reactive...

I offer you my sincere excuse and deepest respect....
Somebody mentioned “anger management.”
What is that?





There a many circonstances in life, most of them, when we must control anger...( i dont spoke here about the sudden anger of a father defending his daughter for example nor of a person angered by everything there is)

We cannot suppress anger but we can enlightened the source of our anger and orientate our anger in a creative way instead of a desctructive way...I will call it "anger creative reorientation"...

We forget the object of our anger for a moment to focus in ourself and on the way we will manage the enormous energy surge at our disposition to create something meaningful from what is meaningless and has angered ourself to begin with......It is this or autodesctruction most of the times... ( anger said the mother of my mother damage the liver) 😁😊

Only my opinion but i am not a psychologist....


But sometimes in life we are vulnerable, not already in great shape, and when  some idiot create without reason an attack on us, we are not ALWAYS able to transform our justified anger in a creative way other than retreating in our own home.....It is the reason why i understand perfectly the feeling of the OP and his reaction...I offer my prayer for his health....


Personally, I believe that the moderators and sponsors of this site intentionally, if passively, promote no-holds-barred discussion to differentiate this forum from others.

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Yup!! and it works for the most part..

Regards

I think my mecanician friend is right....

My deepest respect...