Hi Johnny,
thanks for your suggestions and they certainly won't go in vain as you can imagine, I've caught the bug pretty bad and will likely be tweaking and trading for some time.
since my past post, I couldn't get past the 960ax's lack of bass (great reproduction other than that) so I traded it for an RSP980 (I can't believe how inexpensive these old pro logic processors are.) The RSP980 offers much better detail, better bass, better dynamics. Clearly a superior unit.
Meanwhile, I've finished my DIY kit. I went with GR Research kit speakers and I couldn't recommend them highly enough. They are really opening up and I'm loving the overall sound I'm getting.
I can see now that the 980 is very transparent, but a bit too bright. I'll keep it for quite a while, but my next move might possibly be a tube preamp and I'll also be snooping for the models you've suggested above. I've heard a lot of great things about outlaw and also heard about some reliability issues with them.
I'm researching interconnects and speaker wire and hearing massively different opinion. Currently my speaker wire is home depot and interconnects are one step up from wal mart. A friend of mine runs a commercial AV install company, so I can get wire and connects for cost, so I'll likely end up with DIY interconnects and speaker cable, in keeping with my budget audiophile ways.
Steve