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My system has just received the ultimate insult

The girl I have been seeing recently has shown complete indiffrence to my system. (Melos MA-333, Adcom GCD-750, Oddesy Stratus, ML SL3's) Yesterday, I brought up the subject while in my car and she mentioned that she had bought a pair of speakers for $100 that sounded the same. How I wish that were true! I mentioned that she (like others) has no ability to hear or appreciate the difference. She of course disagreed. I said, that is like saying "all people look just about alike and are equally attractive". She again could not see my logic. When we got home, I played a track for her on my $150 sat/sub with a $20 portable CD player and asked her to listen to it. I then played the same track for her on my system and to my amazement, she said it sounded noticable WORSE! She described it as sounding like a radio station that was not tuned properly with lots of static. What I am assuming is that she has never heard a system that had any kind of hi-freq extension and likened it to "static". Others have heard my system and are completely blown away with every aspect of how it sounded. We have much different tastes in the music we listen to. I have 2 questions to ask, 1) is it possible that she could enjoy listening to 'Her' stereo as much as I enjoy listening to mine? 2) may I continue to be involved with her and still have the respect of my peers?

For the record, I listened to it last night after the insult, and it sounded as wonderful and envolving as ever!
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kthomas
911 posts
 
I used to think that it would be the ultimate to find a woman who liked my hobbies as much as I do since I had a lot of experience finding women who actively didn't like them. I now realize that I found the perfect mate because we're VERY compatible on kids, family, religious outlook, politics, etc., and she is completely apathetic about my pasttimes (as I am hers) - she is more than happy that I enjoy sitting around watching basketball and listening to music endlessly. She's just glad I don't make her do it with me. I guess if I could have everything else the same AND have her be passionate about music and gear, I'd love that too, but not at the expense of giving up something else. And I couldn't go back to having a significant other who resented my pasttimes.

I certainly wouldn't get out of the relationship based on this experience (actually, I wasn't sure that was a serious question), but I'd certainly try to understand what it's telling you if this has the potential to be long term. If she's telling you she resents the hobby, the money, etc., and those things are important to you, you need to decide how significant they are to you. -Kirk

tireguy
1,964 posts
 
Very true, I suppose there is a reason why I am single! I am fairly young/ignorant often, and am sure I have a lot to learn about life and relationships but in the mean time I am aloud to be super particular, unlike Sinatra-The pickin’s AREN’T slim, yet, but there is still room for doubt. To me at the point I am in my life if a girlfriend could not appreciate the system she would hit the road, my theory may change with age, who knows? But either way it is food for thought. Tim
goliverjr
102 posts
 
Am looking for woman who likes audio, kids, dogs and various other furry critters. Needs good ears, patience, cleaning skills,and must have loving disposition. If not into audio, must at least be able to not passive aggressively use it as a weapon ( or aggressively, for that matter).Total picture: 2 kids, 2 dogs, 2 cats, 2 ferrets,1 Russian dwarf hamster, 3 audio systems, & 49.5 yr. old widower.So,be patient, but there are a lot of other issues that will come up as well, so see how this one works out, and keep Kenny Rogers advice in mind-" know when to hold 'em", when to fold 'em........" esp. before tying any knots.
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estrnad
117 posts
 
Make tracks pal. It's love me, love my stereo. She obviously hates you.
mlg
56 posts
 
I used to think it would be nice to have a girlfriend or wife that I could enjoy listening to the system with. The wonderful girl I married likes to listen only occasionally (at lower volume and with some lights on). Now I realize it's good this way because most of the time, not only do I get to hear the music I want to hear, I get the sweet spot all to myself!
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