I have yet to find a system (that I can afford) that reproduces drums with the visceral impact of the real thing
That is quite normal with consumer speakers. You really need to look into pro main monitors. The kind of speakers you see built into walls in this site AAA Group Ltd.. And as Learsfool mentions - you'll see horns as well as other designs but you'll most often see at least one if not two 15" woofers per channel. If you look at the client list you will see some familiar names.
These systems do not simply play louder - they are able to convey the dynamics of real instruments - something most systems cannot do.