Used to be pretty simple -- but haven't done it since the latest update to iTunes, so things may have changed.
Step one, make sure that the Mini and the Pod are in fact connected to the same wireless network. Sounds like you've got that dialed in.
Step two, open the remote app on the Pod. If things go as planned, because it's not paired with anything yet, it will give you a four-digit code.
Step three, now, go to iTunes on the Mini. Once upon a time, you'd have a sidebar/tray menue with all library entries and devices. These days, with the latest update to iTunes, the default is to turn this off. I turned mine back on. Which is to say, if you haven't turned yours back on, not sure where you'll find it. But if it is on, and you do have that sidebar display, iTunes should have by now recognized that your Pod is out there slumming about on the same network, running the remote app, and looking for a friend -- should be selectable as a "device". (And if your sidebar isn't on, there will likley be a "device" menue burried in iTunes somewhere. Yes, seems you have to hunt for everything.) Once you find it, open it, you then enter the code that the App on the Pod had given you in the prior step, and then you're all synched and ready to fire. The App will controll the paired iTunes account.
Home sharing and any other iTunes settings like that aren't at all relevant to this process. While you may or may not be interested in that stuff, don't let it distract you from the App / Remote issue. The remote app doesn't share, or host, or stream anything. It is just a remote control for an iTunes program and library resident elsewhere. (In other words, the iTunes libarary / app on the Pod is entirely unrelated -- for remote purposes, ignore it).
Hope that helps.
Step one, make sure that the Mini and the Pod are in fact connected to the same wireless network. Sounds like you've got that dialed in.
Step two, open the remote app on the Pod. If things go as planned, because it's not paired with anything yet, it will give you a four-digit code.
Step three, now, go to iTunes on the Mini. Once upon a time, you'd have a sidebar/tray menue with all library entries and devices. These days, with the latest update to iTunes, the default is to turn this off. I turned mine back on. Which is to say, if you haven't turned yours back on, not sure where you'll find it. But if it is on, and you do have that sidebar display, iTunes should have by now recognized that your Pod is out there slumming about on the same network, running the remote app, and looking for a friend -- should be selectable as a "device". (And if your sidebar isn't on, there will likley be a "device" menue burried in iTunes somewhere. Yes, seems you have to hunt for everything.) Once you find it, open it, you then enter the code that the App on the Pod had given you in the prior step, and then you're all synched and ready to fire. The App will controll the paired iTunes account.
Home sharing and any other iTunes settings like that aren't at all relevant to this process. While you may or may not be interested in that stuff, don't let it distract you from the App / Remote issue. The remote app doesn't share, or host, or stream anything. It is just a remote control for an iTunes program and library resident elsewhere. (In other words, the iTunes libarary / app on the Pod is entirely unrelated -- for remote purposes, ignore it).
Hope that helps.