How do you get the "real" feel of music?


There is a certain "real" feeling that I get when I go to a live concert. It's more of "feeling" the music instead of "hearing" it. That feeling, I think, comes from percussion instruments. I'd like to get that feel in my home stereo but it's not there. In my home, snare drums don't pop, I don't feel the bass drum in my chest, and rim shots don't exist. Is there a way to get that presence in a small system?

I'm not rich, and I don't want to hear, "Scrap all your sorry equipment and get a Krell, Bryston and HSU..." so with that in mind, I've got a 12x16 room with:

Sony DVP-NS500 DVD
JVC HR-S5900 VCR
Harman Kardon AVR80 II as a pre-amp
Parasound HCA-1205 power amp

I have used
Definitive Technologies BP-6
Polk Audio R40, CS-175, and PSW-250
Bose Accoustimass 5
Bose R-41

Is there any hope?
beetle63
Ok Beetle63 the first thing is you need to have a few drinks, after that your system will blow your mind regardless of what gear you have. Secondly depending on the type of concert your attending, there may be a certain amount of halucinogenic substances minlging with your air supply, which well make concerts seem oh so much more "special". But I wouldn't hesitate to have a few drinks and let it rip I have a feeling that may help you Cheers ~Tim
I remember walking into the shopping mall, where group of old pensioners, apparently from some homes for pensioners amateur music enthusiast performed some old standard tunes. There was brass instuments, clarinets, tube and strangely couple of violins, viola and bass. This, half band half orchesta worked hard. They worked hard on it, and it could be heard and seen and they went on, and the conductor wasn't frustrated, just oposite he encouraged them and went on over the mistakes, pretending they were no mistakes and he absorbed it all. They did some old "stuff", like from "Guys and Dolls", and some not very memorable 50's work. I was about to leave, when familiar first couple of notes struck. Hungarian Rhapsody no. 2 by Franz Liszt.
I stayed, and from the odball band/orchestra that minutes ago sounded like un-rehearsed school band, MUSIC emerged, with all the passion, fire and gamble. These old man, at that moment didn't think about their small pensions, broken dentures, skin cancer, doctor bills and their dead wives. The sons and daughters that called once a year were forgoten. They had it all at that magical moment. And I knew it and their conductor knew it and they knew it. It was the most beautiful live music event i ever heard.

Other than that i would suggest some ESL or planar, if you want to 'feel'.
No: In reality, there is no hope at all of getting the "real" feel of live music through your - or my - or even HP's - stereo system. But much as you may not want to hear it, I think you already know that you could come *a lot* closer with gear other than what you have listed - otherwise, you would not be hanging around A-Gon with the rest of us audiophools! But if that's simply not an option, then drop out and attend as many concerts as you can, and then laugh at us behind our backs!