Glad you found your way back to the music!
I think Audiophilia attracts certain types of people. Men for one, but with analytical skills, a love of nuance and subtlety, lots of cuiousity, and definitely somewhat obsessed. Depending on where you are on the scale of obsessed will probably determine if you get dragged too far.
There’s nothing quite like getting "dragged too far" as a way of learning when to back away from obsession.
Likewise, if you haven’t heard your system pushed in directions you don’t like, how can you discover what you do like?