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Headphones for sound control
I'll be moving to an up-scale life-care facility. The apartments have concrete exterior walls, and I usually listen to small baroque and jazz trios at moderate sound level, But I think headphones may be the way to go when I want to crank it up for large orchestrations like Aida or Mahler's 2nd.
I've been impressed with the sound of my cousin's Sennheiser 800S with his McIntosh headphone amp. I have an Ayer QX-5 Twenty with a headphone driver that Ayer tells me is very good. I suppose the answer is to try the Ayer before buying the McIntosh. I've downsized my rack of Ayer gear to a KEF LS60, but I really like the sound of Ayre electronics. Advice sought.