Girlfriends and wifes, how do YOU cope?

I know that this forum is supposed to be about audio and such, and not a counseling session, but as I can see the two are obvious related. I feel compelled to share my experience.
Presently, my live-in girlfreind's property is sitting in my driveway, and I can't play a blues record because I removed my clavis dc from my turntable for safety reasons.
One place where it all went wrong, is one day I brought home a piece of equipment, I was happy about and in a good mood with my new purchase, and the sense of joy that I shared with her was met with obvious disapproval and disappointment. It soured the experience. Why did I buy if I was going to have a bad experience, or, why do I have her here, were what I think stupid questions going through my head.
It's good to have a sense of humor. Life is fun, and it's fun to evan play things out with a sense of humor.
We all have disagreements about things, big and small, that can affect how we treat our hobby(s).
For me, I don't need for a spouse to be into audio, I don't need one that doesn't care about money, but evan If they don't care about sound or what I just did to my turntable, or what a bargain I got, I would want them to care about my happiness. When you love someone, you have a desire to tell them about things that make you happy, evan if they aren't interested. You like to see them happy, evan if you could care less about what it is that makes them so.
Furthermore, I find this to be a healthy hobby. Listening to music, to me, is far more fulfilling than watching t.v., I can also do things while I listen instead of being occupied on the couch, wacthing a screen. I can engage in conversation, and music fills the soul whereas t.v. fills the mind. And what woman would not want her man doing his thing, playing with his hobby THERE, where he can be with her and share his happiness, and be THERE for hers? That seems INSANE!
Do we have to share all the same interest to enjoy each other? I think not. I don't think we really need share each others passion in certain interest to benifit from that passion.
My freind just told me that I need to find a woman that feels the same way about me as I do about stereo equipment, they're out there. That's shallow. I think I need to find a woman that my stereo can be happy with, 'cause I don't want to be shallow and not consider my stereo's feelings. It doesn't deserve to be treated like this.
Would I be shallow if I said that a woman could have extra ugly points if she was an audiophile?

Slawney; I just took Detlofs' recomendation, first, I had to run for more salt, then I had to read it a few more times while I tried to get my brain to wake up enough to obsorb that level of intellegence.
I feel your pain. Sounds like quite a pickle you were in- while in the process of trying to upgrade your woman, your stereo got downgraded in the process.
And then while taking in your wisdom, I had a nightmere epiphany; what if, given that women are women, and given she was for me the wrong type, and she was an audiophile, what would happen if I tried to switch amps, or cables? would I be in for it? What if she couldn't hear second order distortion? What if her new component obscured detail? Would I be allowed to change VTA? Would I have to work overtime to try to get equipment that was so good, so expensive, that we could both live with it in order to try to save the sound AND the marriage? WOOW!
Whew, I'm back. I would like to retract my statements on points for being an audiophile, and comparing stereos to women. I'm with tireguy-how a woman reacts to our hobby is an indication of things to come. It's the interest in what we have created that is interest in us. The Ozfly hit the nail on the head, it is a two way street, and we should take their advice:
Women are not stereos. You can't upgrade them. We can't add or subtract resisters or change cables to get them to sound the way we want. When the system requires attention, tubes or adjustments, we can get to it whenever with no harm done. People and stereos both have thier advantages.
I'm curious, did you get them back? did they sound the same? How much damage was done?