Since I am one of a handful of women that participate in audiogon, I guess I better respond with my 2 cents. Tsart, I think your wife is very lucky indeed to be married to such a man. You seem very wise and hopefully she appreciates you. I do have a few things to say as far as marriage, but I want to make it clear that I have never been married myself, but have many long term friends (men included) and have been involved in many relationships, some worked out (still friends with them), some didn't. But I have come to some conclusions about the marriage trip. As far as a women changing (or trying to change a man after marriage) when 2 people go from living by themselves and move in with another, there has to be some changes made. It doesn't matter whether the move is with a wife, roommate, back to parents, or whoever, there has to be some kind of adjustments. In other words, you can't be exactly the same living with another as you were living by yourself. It just won't work. Also, Chaskelljr, you can plan every little minute detail down to the toothpaste tube, and you will still be hit by many, many unexpected circumstances that you will have to deal with. That's the way life is because there is no such thing as planning for many of the trials & tribulations that come our way. You just have to have a good solid base to work with and the ups & downs of life will be much easier. I personally (just my opinion) think that a lot of people get married for the wrong reasons then when the problems arise, they aren't able to deal with them in a rational manner. Some of my friends got married just because they were lonely, some of them because they needed a financial cushion, others because they just wanted to be "married". None of these people are still married to the original person. We have all discussed this many times and they realize now that they just didn't wait for the "right" person. They got married for the wrong reasons, which means marrying the wrong person.
Well, I guess that's enough from me. Charles, I sincerely wish you the best of luck in your marriage, and at 40 years old, I'm sure you know that she's the one for you. Here's to a long & happy marriage.
Well, I guess that's enough from me. Charles, I sincerely wish you the best of luck in your marriage, and at 40 years old, I'm sure you know that she's the one for you. Here's to a long & happy marriage.