I have a similar situation and setup but (perhaps) for different reasons.
In my dedicated room I have my system on one side of the rack and a system for the family on the other side. That way they don't mess with my stuff and dont use my speakers for movies.
My side Stream+SACD+DVDA-Allnic Pre-Manley+Threshold amps-Infinity IRS Beta
Their side Heos/stream-Denon ABR with DSP correction-Cambridge soundworks+Sunfire Subs
The HEOS also feeds Control4 for whole house