Select-hifi - I concur that the post wasn't presented in a tactful way, nor helpful, in that, an explanation wasn't provided.
I believe what was meant by "you are doing it wrong", was in response to the original post where gongli3 stated "I find myself not listening to music but to the sound of speakers, if you know what I mean".
As others have stated, gongli3 is experiencing something new from his speakers, which he hasn't experienced previously. However, the pursuit of HiFi is, in fact, to let the music shine through, and the equipment (including the speakers) disappear.