Sensitive ears to speakers. Help!!!


I have been going crazy trying to get a great sounding system. The problem that I have is that very detailed speakers make my ears go crazy. The more detail I get the happier I am turning the equipment off. Some people tell me that I am sensitive to metal dome tweeters. That I should go with other types of tweeters. Does anybody else experience this same feeling???
jel
You need to list your equipment and room acoustics. Your overly sensitive ears may also be a sign of hearing damage, which might be a slim possiblity. Hopefully, that's not the case.
This is JEL. For those who have asked for my components: VTL ST150 TUBE AMP, VTL 2.5 PRE-AMP, BEL CANTO DAC 1, PIONEER 525 DVD PLAYER USED AS TRASPORT, JUST PURCHASED HALES TRANSCENDENCE 5 SPEAKERS, CABLES HARMONIC TECH AND ANALYSIS PLUS. THE HALES ARE GREAT BUT MY EARS GO CRAZY. SOMETIMES FEELS LIKE A VACCUM AND WEIRD FEELING. HARD TO EXPLAIN. NOT 100% BROKEN IN YET, MAYBE HALF WAY. I HAVE A PAIR OF OLD SPICA ANGELUS. NOT AS DETAILED (NEED A GOOD SUB TOO) BUT MY EARS DON'T FUSS. IS THERE A HAPPY MIDDLE??
This is JEL again. Forgot to mention room. 16'Wx25'L9'H. with carpet and plenty of curtains on the 25' length sides. This should cut down on the brightness.
Ekmaia, yes, I'm referring to the D21/2 tweeters. I feel that they're better than the Esotec, except maybe in the very bottom of their range. The Esotar has been a little too aggressively metallic sounding, in my experience. It is extremely dynamic, though. However, I'm about to try another model that might actually be better than the Esotar tweeter dynamics wise, and will hopefully be close to the Revelator smoothness wise, and it's cheaper to boot...............EZMERALDA, I agree that execution is the most improtant thing in speaker design, to a point. However, if you want the absolute best performance, you do indeed need to shop "by the drivers", because they're what's transducing the electrical into mechanical energy, and are the last determining factor in how much performance can be achieved by the speaker system as a whole. This cannot be denied, ask any designer in the industry. Otherwise, the best speakers would use cheap and ineffectual frivers, which NONE of them do.
The Hales T 5s when broken in should sound great in your system.Are you sure that the speaker cables have the polarity switched from the amp to each speaker,as is how Hales describes to do ? Are you also breaking them in as prescribed by Hales at their web site ? Call Hales Design and describe your problem,they are very accommodating.Good luck.