i went through this a few years back when i bought a condo...if you like it loud, first you must acoustically treat your room. This may sound strange, but by adding the $250 Room Tunes kit from MGA, i can listen at quite loud volumes however very little vibration goes into the floor or through the walls. No idea why this is, but a 'tuned room' plays louder at lower volume levels...and the bass is perfect. the kit does nothing to stop the vibes from going into other units, it simply tunes the room so tunes at low volume sound loud and proper.
The L/R of my condo shares a party wall with my neighbors bedroom. I installed a multi-layer drywall sound barrier that weighs about 3000lbs (5/8" drywall) and they never hear me. i'm always respectful of their 10pm bedtime, but by 10:30pm i'm a rockin again!
solid concrete floors & carpet with thick padding go a long way. One interesting note, depending on the type of sublfoor (concrete vs wood) your neighbors on either side might be bothered by floor vibes rather than thru the wall...this is what i found out.
the real key is a good realtionship with the neighbors, and playing music they won't mind.
my speakers are 70lb floorstanders that are spiked, but rarely do the nieghbors below give a call SINCE adding the RoomTunes.
matt