i'll try to decipher your questions:
1. the DB level setting is useful for equalizing the volume of all your sources (e.g. so your cdp doesn't sound louder than your cable at the same volume level)--i'd just set it at whatever levels sound good to you and not overthink it.
2. your connections should go as follows:
a. for video, component from your cable box to the component input on the b&k, then another set of component cables from the b&k component output to the component input on the tv.
b. for audio, you need to assign assign an optical input on the b&k to "tv" (through the b& k menu), then connect an optical cable on your cable box to the optical input you so assigned on the b&k--when you're watching tv, you want to be on the tv input of your b&k.
c. if you also want to watch tv without the b&k, connect an s video cable directly from your cable box to the tv and a (red/white) rca audio cable from the cable box to the (red/white) audio input on the tv. make sure you turn the tv volume down when you're using the b&k.
3. the remote is made by urc--if you look on urc's website in their archive of discontinued model you'll find exactly the same model with programming instructions
1. the DB level setting is useful for equalizing the volume of all your sources (e.g. so your cdp doesn't sound louder than your cable at the same volume level)--i'd just set it at whatever levels sound good to you and not overthink it.
2. your connections should go as follows:
a. for video, component from your cable box to the component input on the b&k, then another set of component cables from the b&k component output to the component input on the tv.
b. for audio, you need to assign assign an optical input on the b&k to "tv" (through the b& k menu), then connect an optical cable on your cable box to the optical input you so assigned on the b&k--when you're watching tv, you want to be on the tv input of your b&k.
c. if you also want to watch tv without the b&k, connect an s video cable directly from your cable box to the tv and a (red/white) rca audio cable from the cable box to the (red/white) audio input on the tv. make sure you turn the tv volume down when you're using the b&k.
3. the remote is made by urc--if you look on urc's website in their archive of discontinued model you'll find exactly the same model with programming instructions