PATRICK PAUL MALONE
NOVEMBER 10, 2005 7:15 AM
AT HOME WITH JESUS
NOVEMBER 10, 2005 7:15 AM
AT HOME WITH JESUS
About Lugnut -- Patrick Malone
Many of us have come to know Patrick Malone (Lugnut) as a friendly, helpful, knowledgeable and kind individual. He is a frequent and enthusiastic contributor to our analog discussion forum. He has initiated only 17 threads, but responded to 559 threads. I would guess that many, if not most, of us can recall a time when Pat replied with helpful advice to a question we posted or helped us track down a rare recording. I have come to love Pat as a friend, and to respect him as a man, and I suspect many of you share those feelings.
Today I write to share difficult news with you. Pat has been diagnosed with an aggressive stomach cancer. It has yet to be determined whether surgery will even be worth it. If surgery is performed, most or all of the stomach will be removed, and Pat would face a difficult and long post-op period in the hospital. The medical course is still uncertain, but will be determined soon. Whatever is decided, it will not be easy or pleasant.
Something may be planned in the future to assist the family. For now, Pat could use some of the friendship he so often and willingly showed us. You can email Pat at: lugnut50@msn.com. You can also mail cards, letters ... or whatever. You may email me for Pat's mailing address. My email is: pfrumkin1@comcast.net.
I hope to spend a few days with Pat in Idaho or Nebraska (from which he hails) soon. Between this news, my legal work, getting ready for family arriving for the holidays, Audio Intelligent, and trying to make plans to visit Pat, my head is spinning. If you email me and I don't respond, please understand that I am not ignoring you, but rather simply do not have time to reply.
Pat may or may not have time to respond to posts here, to emails, or to cards mailed to him. But he has asked me to convey to each and every one of you that he has cherished your friendship, your comradery, and sharing our common hobby on this great website.
As we prepare for our holiday season celebrations, and look forward to -- as we should -- enjoying this time of year, I ask that you keep Pat and his family in mind ... and softly offer up, in quiet moments in the still of night and early morning, prayers for Pat and his family. God bless.
Warmest regards to all,
Paul Frumkin
Today I write to share difficult news with you. Pat has been diagnosed with an aggressive stomach cancer. It has yet to be determined whether surgery will even be worth it. If surgery is performed, most or all of the stomach will be removed, and Pat would face a difficult and long post-op period in the hospital. The medical course is still uncertain, but will be determined soon. Whatever is decided, it will not be easy or pleasant.
Something may be planned in the future to assist the family. For now, Pat could use some of the friendship he so often and willingly showed us. You can email Pat at: lugnut50@msn.com. You can also mail cards, letters ... or whatever. You may email me for Pat's mailing address. My email is: pfrumkin1@comcast.net.
I hope to spend a few days with Pat in Idaho or Nebraska (from which he hails) soon. Between this news, my legal work, getting ready for family arriving for the holidays, Audio Intelligent, and trying to make plans to visit Pat, my head is spinning. If you email me and I don't respond, please understand that I am not ignoring you, but rather simply do not have time to reply.
Pat may or may not have time to respond to posts here, to emails, or to cards mailed to him. But he has asked me to convey to each and every one of you that he has cherished your friendship, your comradery, and sharing our common hobby on this great website.
As we prepare for our holiday season celebrations, and look forward to -- as we should -- enjoying this time of year, I ask that you keep Pat and his family in mind ... and softly offer up, in quiet moments in the still of night and early morning, prayers for Pat and his family. God bless.
Warmest regards to all,
Paul Frumkin
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Dear Audiogon friends - My heart aches and my eyes weep but I feel so at peace. I know it's because of the way that Pat prepared my for this time and because of the love and support that I continue to get from all of our many friends. Thank you each and every one of you. A wonderful way to memorialize Pat would be to relax and listen to music on Sunday afternoon which will be our open house visitation time. Also in Pat's memory I would like to collect letters addressed to his grandchildren, Scott and Aidyn, so that someday they can read them and know about their grandpa. There's no better way to celebrate this wonderful man. Reporting from Pat's computer and feeling his presence. Barb |
CEREMONY OF COMMITTMENT NOVEMBER 12, 2005 2 PM Today we laid Pat at the altar of our old stone church - to honor him and to present him to the Lord. Our family gathered around to memoralize him with scripture, prayer, song and stories that lasted about one hour. A friends 10 year old daughter played "Amazing Grace" on the guitar, we sang "In the Garden" and we ended with Eva Cassidy's Fields of Gold." In was chilly but sunny autumn day and the whole world just seemed to stop. So we all looked up and said thanks while the heavens opened to receive Pat. Thank you my friends. Barb PS - The puppy will be named after Pat's grandmother. "Stella Grace" I will call her "Gracie" Image 1 Image 2 |
Hello Friends - I wanted to share a couple of puppy pictures with you. Gracie came to live with me yesterday and she has adjusted well. She is constantly by my side in everything I do. She is going to be a great companion. We had a wonderful tribute to Pat on Sunday. About 50+ friends stopped by to share stories, look at pictures, and listen to music. I am still busy with family and friends here and they are taking good care of me. But for some reason I feel so very exhausted. The moon is full and the blues are playing. Later and Love to all. Barb http://www.audiointelligent.com/stuff/puppy1.jpg http://www.audiointelligent.com/stuff/puppy2.jpg |
Hi Everyone - Thank you for your continual posts to this thread. I really appreciate all the concern and well wishes coming my way. I am staying very busy with my job at the post office and taking care of Gracie. I sure miss Pat's wisdom and guidance, and mostly his presence and love. On December 15th it will be our 32nd wedding anniversary. I am going to celebrate by surrounding myself with dear friends for music and conversation. Pat would have wanted it that way. The picture of Pat and I was taken the day that he can home from the hospital after surgery. The picture of Gracie and I will be Christmas 2005. I am praying for each of you because I know that you are hurting too. God Bless. Barb http://www.audiointelligent.com/stuff/barbandgracie.jpg http://www.audiointelligent.com/stuff/barbandpat.jpg |
Hi Everyone - Last night I was finally able to bring myself back to this thread. As I read the words my tears began to cover the keyboard. Then Gracie jumped into my lap, licked by face with kisses and then ran off with my wet kleenex to chew it up into a million white pieces! That was when I decided that I had to wait until this morning to respond. Every morning when I got up Pat would already be typing vigorously on the computer to all this buddies. But he would look up at me and say "Have I told you today that you are pretty?" and I would say "Have I told YOU today that I love you?" We never missed a day all last year while he was sick. Now Gracie and I have the same routine. First of all. Thank you so much for all the kind words and well wishes for the holidays on this thread and all the beautiful cards I received in the mail and of course all of the phone calls and messages. And a very special thank you to Lou and Gina for the beautiful package containing the hard copy book of this thread (all 265 pages!!) along with several CDr copies and a beautiful afghan for me (which will be displayed in the music room) and a blanket for Amanda created and made by Gina. Thank you for honoring Pat's request - we will cherish these things forever. I cannot even begin to explain in words how difficult the grieving has been for me since Pat passed away. When a person grieves the loss of a loved one - it is your own personal experience. That's when you turn to the Lord and remember "Footprints in the Sand." Recently some dear friends and I celebrated our wedding anniversary with a small get-together in our home. Pat always cherished companionship and good conversation. It was a very nice rememberance. These last few days have been very sad for me though because I did not want to leave 2005 and start a New Year without Pat. But I rose to the occasion and carried those 32 years of memories with me as I stepped into the year 2006. Then I listened to "Prairie Wind" and reflected. There is still lots of frozen puppy poop in the back yard and the house is turning into a barn since I let the outdoor cat "Lugnut" back in the house with Gracie and I (Pat would not approve). But I am looking forward to going to Sacramento next weekend to visit Howard and Gina (now Pat would approve). Gracie will stay at our friend's farm where she was born and be with her extended family for lots of doggy fun. I am really glad that Kirsten joined this thread and that you all have been so gracious to her. I know that would put a great big smile of Pat's face! We were forunate to have found her and built a special relationship with the time that we all had together. We will continue to remain close. Happy New Year to everyone on Audiogon and thank you so much for keeping Pat's memory alive and honoring his life with music. God Blesses us all - Barb PS - I have a few of Pat's T-shirts left (plain colors XL). Let me know if you are interested. http://www.audiointelligent.com/stuff/afgan.jpg |